What do you want to stop doing?

Hello friends!

I am getting ready for my trip to the mountain this weekend so things are crazy (to say the least). I wasn’t sure if I would have time to write about this week’s burning question but I wanted to give it a shot. This week’s inquiry:

What do you want to stop doing?

Now, I could have definitely written about some heavy stuff I want to stop doing in my life, but since last week was a deep topic, I figured this week could be more on a practical (but still really important) tip.

I want to stop spending so much time online.

Ok, wow I just said it, I actually put it out there! Does that mean my computer is going to explode in my face, or that the online coven of powerful internet goddess will blacklist me forever? Probably not, but admitting that I spend too much time online is really tough for me so bear with me. What started as a fun distraction from work and school has seriously drained WAY too much of my time, leaving me feeling like I just wasted three hours of my life.

Now don’t get me wrong, the internet is one of the most amazing things in the world. For real. It has connected me with fantastic people, enriched my academic experience, given me a incredible political education and has allowed me to share my life, identity and space in this world.

But it has also sucked tons of my time away from more important endeavors. It has hypnotized me into reading/looking at/blankly staring at articles, pictures, tumblrs, facebook statuses and other things that don’t satisfy me at my core. How much time can one spend on Google Reader before everything starts looking the same? How many recipes can you browse before you are so overwhelmed, you end up not cooking anything at all? How many articles on inspiration and motivation can you read before you forget the most important part – actually applying those things to your real life.

And that’s just the thing. While I appreciate all of the beauty, fun and inspiration the online world(s) give me, I lose the beauty, fun and inspiration of my offline world in the process. Spending hours reading travel blogs while never using that time to hop on a bus and see where it takes me bothers me and makes me sad. And while I won’t ever stop reading blogs, or saving beautiful images to my desktop, I want to take that energy and effort away from the isolated experience of me and the computer and into the universal community experience of shared moments with others and with nature.

Once a month, for the three days I am up in the mountains of Santa Cruz, I am completely offline. No twitter updates, no Facebook statuses, not even a single e-mail. And you know what? It is a time of complete joy. Without the temptation/obligation of being connected to everything and everyone, I am free to enjoy what really matters to me: catching the sunrise, hiking in the forest, sacred song and spending time connecting to like-minded community. I am allowed to be completely immersed in the world, without the internet zapping my energy.

So that is what I want to stop doing. Stop spending so much time in the online world and more time in the offline one. I am implementing “switch-off sundays” again and I have installed Leech Block as a step toward spending less time on the computer. Eventually, I want to be off the computer every weekend but we’re taking baby steps over here.

What is your relationship to the online world? And what would you like to get rid of?



The Burning Question: What Boat Do You Need to Burn?

Hi readers, I thought I would branch out a little bit and share in Danielle LaPorte’s “the burning question” series. Every once in a while, she sends out a question for us all to reflect on and share.

This week’s question: WHAT BOAT DO YOU NEED TO BURN?

A ton of stuff came up while reading this post. All were things that have served me in the past, but no longer do. And while I could write about a bunch of them, I know we don’t have that much time so here is one that has been feeling really icky for quite some time:


I was raised to be a “nice” girl, to always be polite and smile often. To never show my feelings of disagreement or (especially) of anger. My insecurities through adolescence made me believe that if I wasn’t nice to everyone all of the time, no one would like me. I wouldn’t have lots of friends and I wouldn’t be validated. Many of those limiting beliefs have been carried with me, across the country and across a decade. I now find myself smiling when I don’t feel like it, laughing at jokes that I don’t think are funny and not speaking up for myself as often as I would like. I keep a lot of my feelings to myself (or to my husband and kitty, who get an earful), even when I know I need to let them out. Being a kapha to the core, most people can pick up on my loving nature. And don’t get me wrong, 95% of the time I am that super compassionate, motherly, caring and gentle woman. It’s just the 5% leftover that gets left behind, hidden away for a more “appropriate” time that kills me.

Of course, there is no right or wrong time/place for your emotions. And although being sweet, passive and accommodating has made socializing and creating relationships easy, I know it hasn’t attracted the right kinds of folks into my life. I can easily think of half a dozen toxic relationships I have had in the past (uh, hello “best friend” who bailed on my bridal shower and couldn’t even call?) and even further issues of all-around yuckiness that have consistently resurfaced from me not always speaking my truth.

The thing is, I DO like being a nice person. I get along with folks really well and I am one of the most laid back people I know. But when something is bothering me, someone is getting on my nerves, or I just know that something isn’t resonating right, I need to burn that “nice or bust” boat and just speak from the heart.

It won’t always be easy. But I will be sharing my authentic self, for better or worse. I need to let go of that boat which no longer serves me and make space for 100 percent of who I truly am.

So, it’s your turn: what boat do you need to burn?

Motivational Monday!

Happy Monday readers!

Hope you had a wonderful weekend. Yesterday we celebrated my husband’s birthday by walking around the Mission, looking at all the bike stores and having some South Indian food. Today (which is his actual birthday), we walked to Samovar, one of my favorite tea houses and had a “tea service”, which is delicious food paired with fancy tea. I bought a LivingSocial coupon for the place a few months ago just for this occasion (since we can’t usually afford such things) and I am so happy I did!

We don’t give each other elaborate gifts but I bought him a Moleskine notebook (since he writes a lot and is always coming up with articles for his blog) and a new biography on Trotsky that looks awesome!

Here are some treats for you:

Marc and Angel have done it again – this time with a wonderful list of 30 things to start doing for yourself. I personally love “start noticing and living in the present” and “start being polite to yourself.”

The Ryan Gosling meme phenomenon has been entertaining and this new one made me chuckle. Of course, as a doula/childbirth educator/reproductive justice activist, this website is my favorite of them all 🙂

Remember how I discussed Sarah Wilson’s “I Quit Sugar” e-book? Well, she recorded a Q and A webinar about issues and concerns about ditching the stuff. Check it out!

This vegan toasted coconut and pomegranate panna cotta from Bliss looks divine.

And I will leave you with one of my favorite songs from Feist’s new album. Kinda Tori Amos-y, don’t you think?

Have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!

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mindful media: elizabeth gilbert on nurturing creativity

hello readers!

sorry we didn’t have a motivational mondays post this week, i just got back from my herbal intensive weekend (which i still have to tell you all about!) and things have been hectic. my husband got a new job this week so i am trying to get used to the schedule and responsibilities that are changing.

anyway, i watched this talk from elizabeth gilbert on nurturing creativity and it really resonated with me. if you don’t know who elizabeth is, she wrote the now ridiculously famous book eat pray love and the more recent book on marriage committed. she discusses the pitfalls that creative people encounter and how to release yourself from that stress. i love the way she describes the creative process, that it is divinity that flows through you and not something disjointed that you only created yourself.  it is a truly inspiring talk!